I am sure that the comments section I have have comments that would be sarcastic and opposing this view, but anyhow from my thoughts on multiple issues I am surprised that I have reached this conclusion. Sadly it is true and I will be very happy if alternate perspectives can change my opinion. I still wish to believe being a woman myself that we are the kinder sex full of love, passion and compassion as we are portrayed. However there have been terrible events in and around all of us and if you look closely somewhere it is a woman responsible in many cases, in turn history though for the wrong reasons believe that a woman is the root cause of evil. Well not true, I don't feel that Draupadi caused the Mahabharata or Sita the end of Ravana, it was lust for beauty or power that killed them, I speak here about the demons that have engulfed Indian homes in the name of Indian culture, customs and tradition. The very demons that have led to major issues in society and a huge block towards progress of the female sex. If you see rural India and tell me that women are empowered and equal to men, it would be the most cruel joke ever.
Living in such an imbalanced society where you despite of being a woman have the liberty to live life by your choices but the women around you are not , makes you think and ponder why. On many such occasions I have found many views. Most of the old school patriarchal society which teaches a woman right from the day she is born to respect men in their family and when she is past puberty she is taught that her "future husband" is like God and its living upto his and his family member's likings that she should mould herself to. But why not the opposite? Why is she not considered as an equal, why are men in the family not expected to pay attention to her wishes, why is a man not taught to respect his sister, his mother, his wife?
My observation says that in a lot of cases the culprit behind this inequality is the mother. In most Indian families a son is more preferred sex and not a daughter. A daughter is never considered the heir and the struggle to have a male child continues. Reason is though the daughter carries the DNA she surely doesn't carry the last name and that wins over DNA in the mindset of the society. The daughter is treated as an inferior sex in her own home. She is never given preference in anything be it education, freedom or even the choice of food that is being cooked. If she is not treated as an equal in her own family will she ever be able to have the esteem to redeem her status later in her husbands family. Certainly we know what the answer is.
The more tragic state of affairs which triggers me to write this is the increasing number of killings because of dowry or the mother-in -law torturing the daugther-in -law. According to the 2013 statistics published in The Telegraph, a woman is killed every hour in India becuase of "Dowry". Is it really worth it? Why cant people especially the "mother-in-law" treat the respective daughter in law as their daughters. How could a woman be so selfish that she could kill another practically her child's age just for materialistic gains. Ofcourse we have seen from various reports that even very educated women go through and suffer this, so enabling women with education certainly isn;t the solution. The solution is treating your daughter equal to your son and if you can't kill her in that vessel full of milk the day she is born, that would be kinder rather than killing her 25 years later because she cannot stand upto the injustice done to her is certainly the most heinous crime a mother knowingly or unknowingly commits.
So if you cannot treat your daugther equal to your son, If you cannot teach your son to treat his sister as an equal and to respect her, then you donot deserve to be a mother of the "girl child". On the contrary if you be the change today, the world can certainly be a better place to live.